Cheers to New Friends

Those of you that know me, know that I don’t have that Sex and the City type of girlfriend circle. Don’t get me wrong I have some great girlfriends but I have also had a lot of girlfriend issues. This past year I made a couple of new girlfriends and tonight they took me out for an early birthday celebration. Dinner at Marinella on College St where the food was all fresh and fabulous!! Afterwards we went to College Street Bar where we hung out for a bit and heard some good music. DJ Spence Diamonds in the house!

The thing is these two women have not known me very long, especially D and it was her idea. I thought it was so thoughtful and nice of her. They each got me a card and a little gift which was so sweet. They are both amazing!! After a sour ending to my Dallas trip it was nice to be around these lovely women. I didn’t need anything big but it was weird that my cousins who I was with in Dallas until last week, did nothing for my birthday and these two women who I haven’t known very long, did. That speaks volumes. They all know the hell I went through this past year and a half. So I really appreciate anyone being kind and thoughtful and try to stay away from anyone bringing negativity into my life.

To my new friends and many more birthdays to come! 😊

Great end to 2014!

It’s December 30th and I’m on my way to Dallas. I got a call yesterday from American Airlines asking if I wanted a non stop flight instead of my connecting flight … no charge. Of course I would! Changed my flight and was able to leave a few hours later. I slept in a little and leisurely finished packing. Lovely. I then went to check in online and was given the option to upgrade to business class for $130. This meant that I got dinner and checked bags would be free. So really that’s like paying an extra $100 for a far more comfortable flight. Uhhhh yeah I’ll upgrade! For a close to 4 hr flight, totally worth it!

I’ve flown business class before but it’s been awhile. For any flight over an 2 hrs I think it’s worth it. You get priority boarding, and once you’re seated they will hang up your coat. The seats are far roomier which is nice. The stewardess brings you drinks (water juice etc) right away and there’s lots of room in the overhead compartments (less people per row). I just finished eating dinner, which wasn’t bad. A nice salad, veggies and roast chicken. I feel quite satisfied and didn’t fill up on crap.

It’s unfortunate that this isn’t the service provided to all patrons on the flight. This little girl was boarding and while walking past me said ‘these seats look nice’. I wanted to say ‘there’s an empty seat here why don’t you stay’. But we all know that’s an impossibility. A big part of upgrading for me was getting a decent meal. Even if it did include a soft chewy chocolate chip cookie at the end :D. This is my splurge as I’ve decided that once Jan 1 2015 is here I’m going to get on track with my eating & exercising and be my FIT HEALTHY self again!!

I am so grateful to have made it through to the end of 2014. It was a difficult year but it only got better. Hopefully 2015 will be even better and I will live to see the end of the next year. I am spending New Years with my lovely cousins (my sisters) and it will be wonderful. A year ago I was depressed and in pain. Had just had surgery and spent NYE watching tv. My parents stayed home with me instead of going to their friends’ NYE celebration. I love them and don’t know what I would have done without them, especially my mother. They are in India right now for 6 weeks on a well deserved vacation. We all deserve splurges and vacations. So if you don’t have anything planned, plan it! Go somewhere close or somewhere far but take a break even if it’s a short one. Take the time away from your busy schedule to enjoy life, to explore and appreciate all the wonderful things around us.

Wishing everyone a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Will talk to you all in 2015! 😀

Is PLASTIC the New Beautiful?

Before I start, I just want to say that I have insomnia. A lovely withdrawal symptom of one of the drugs I was on. I’m weaning myself off of this drug and it’s been terrible! Insomnia and nausea are the withdrawal symptoms I’m experiencing, which is brutal while being sick with the stomach flu! Oh well, it will pass eventually so moving on …

Within the Hollywood community it seems to be the norm to have had some sort of plastic surgery. I saw an old picture of Halle Berry (who I love and was already beautiful) but couldn’t believe how different she looked. You could tell it was her because certain things were the same but it was the whole Michael Jackson (who I also love) let me shrink my nose deal. Then there is Kim Kardashian who was already very pretty but lately started looking a little weird to me, as if her nose got smaller and slightly thinner. What’s up with that?! Now I get that these women are in the limelight and a big part of their fame is their beauty but how is it that old Hollywood actresses looked stunning without all that plastic surgery? Have our ideas on beauty changed? Is PLASTIC the new Beautiful??

With today’s average woman (who can afford it), it seems to be commonplace to have had breast implants, nose jobs, eyelid lifts etc. This is very sad. We have become a society so obsessed with superficial beauty that women (and some men) will go to great lengths to attain that look which they and society deem to be beautiful. Yes there are some some women with bigger breasts, some with smaller noses and some with bigger butts, but whatever each of us has, I think we all have something. The issue is that what some of us have is great intelligence or talent, instead of physical beauty. So yes some are physically more attractive than others but there are also some that are more intelligent than others. Intelligence doesn’t seem to get the same attention that physical appearance does and in some realms almost devalued. Why is there so much focus on the superficial? Maybe it’s that there are ways to change things physically but not intellectually? Hmmm I don’t know about that. While some are smarter than others I think there are a lot of people who could further their mental/intellectual capacity if they focused their energy on education and learning (I don’t necessarily mean formal education) instead of what some celeb is wearing or doing. Especially the younger generation who is part of the new “instant everything” generation. The generation that texts more, talks on the phone less, has far less social face to face interaction and is exposed to so much more of everyone online, on tv, and in magazines looking perfect. What that must do to one’s self esteem. Thank god I was born in the early 70s! Dodged a bullet there.

When women who are already beautiful feel the need to have surgery to change their appearance, what does that do for the average woman. Having average sized breasts seems to be rare in certain communities. An average sized nose is probably considered big. Looking less than perfect is not being up to par. Good lord how is the average woman supposed to manage looking perfect all the time??? Oh and she’s still supposed to feel good about herself?! Now add Breast cancer on to that. You lose your hair, eyebrows and eyelashes. Then your breasts are either distorted or completely removed and you’re left with one or no breasts. Traumatizing!!! Believe me I know, I have one Breast at the moment. I somehow managed to come out still feeling pretty good about myself. It wasn’t easy, I have quite a few battle scars but I feel emotionally stronger each day and see myself slowly getting back to who I am. This I am so grateful for.

So this whole fake plastic phenomenon … is it the women feeding into this or the men driving it, a combination of both??? I really don’t know. I do know that there are those women who do feel good about themselves and are happy with who they are. They’re confident, self assured and don’t let society define who they should be or what they should look like. Those are the women we should aspire to be. Where BRILLIANCE or BRAINS or TALENT and INNER BEAUTY is the new Beautiful!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying don’t appreciate someone’s beauty/physical appearance but our physical appearance should not become the priority in our lives. We should absolutely take care of ourselves and take pride in our appearance but not let it take over. So always LOOK YOUR BEST, DO YOUR BEST and BE THE BEST PERSON YOU.

Quote I read recently: “There is an industry making money out of making people feel inadequate.”

San Francisco to Seattle to Chicago


I’m now at ICE Resto/Lounge at O’hare International Airport waiting for the last leg of my flight back from San Francisco. Having dinner, since all you get are some peanuts/pretzels and juice/water on the plane. What is that?! Are they trying to end the obesity epidemic??! Anyhow, I thoroughly enjoyed my SPRING GREEN SALAD. Spring greens with cherry tomatoes, pears, almond slivers and goat cheese all topped with a lemon honey dressing. Yummmm!!! As if that wasn’t enough I also got a FRESH HERB CHICKEN SANDWICH. This was also DELICIOUS!! Romaine lettuce, mozzarella, roasted red peppers, avocado crème and of course the herbed chicken all on sourdough bread. SOOOO GOOD! I decided to splurge and get the BROWN SUGAR PECANS. Mmmmm. Yes it’s exactly what it sounds like.

I realize that was a lot of food but I eat a lot more than I used to! I need all the nourishment and nutrients I can get. When it’s healthy eating and you’re active, weight gain will not be an issue. Although right now I’m trying to lose that 7 pounds I gained. Oh well, no biggie. I’ll get there eventually. I’m healthy and that’s what matters.

Food is very much a focal point now LOL. I have to eat healthy but enjoying my meals is also important. Enjoying life is also important and when I was flying back from San Fran on my crazy flight with a stopover in Seattle and another in Chicago I still managed to thoroughly enjoy myself by adding in my meal at ICE. The food was great along with the ambiance and the service.

The trip to San Francisco was wonderful as well! Enjoying life and savouring each day!